What is the role of a pastor’s spouse? It’s a question not addressed in Scripture. But here’s a more interesting question: If a man is a pastor, does his wife become a pastor of the church simply by relationship?
I’ve come from denominational organization that has the idea that because a pastor is married to a woman, they are both “pastors” of the church and are both publicly called such.
There are certain desired qualities in the wife of a pastor. No doubt. There are even certain responsibilities which come with being the wife of a pastor. But since when did a spouse automatically assume the same role as the other spouse? Is Michelle Obama the Co-Commander-in-Chief? Does the husband of the Public School Superintendent also take on that role or title? Does he assume the same responsibilities and authority as his wife?
Why would a religious organization make such a policy decision?
I’ve known several husband-wife ministry teams. They worked well together. They enjoyed working together. They both served in an official – or unofficial – capacity in the church. Both believed they were called by Jesus and empowered by the Holy Spirit to serve the Body of Christ in an official role. But that is an important distinction. Both were “called” and “empowered” for the position.
A church or denominational culture which decides that husbands and wives are automatically both “pastors” regardless of calling or gifting, is a culture opposed to the Word of God.